Stupid Songs

25Nov07

I have always tried not to be one of those parents that say “they grow up too fast.” Sure they grow fast, but isn’t that how it is suppose to be? I mean what if your kid didn’t grow up as fast as others… that would mean somthing was wrong. Im sure they would be loved as much as other children, but a kid is suppose to grow. That all being said, I have really grown to hate those songs about little girls growing up; You know like that old one “butterfly kisses”, and I heard a new one a few days ago called “stealing cinderella.” That one hit home… if any of you have been to my house you’ve seen my babies in all sorts of different princess outfits…so when some punk comes to take my baby girl (whichever one it might be) he will be stealing my little cinderella… Im sorry, Im rambling aren’t I?

Anyway, those songs really bug me. I mean, I try to live in the moment, see each second as a beautifull gift, somthing to savor, but these stupid songs make me think about the future. I dont want to think about the future… I dont want to imagine how I will feel when I am not the only man in my daughters’ eyes. I dont want to think about what I will feel when she leaves me… when she falls in love with someone… when I am no longer the only light in her eyes… I dont want to think about that.

So I dont… you know what I do when those songs come on the raidio? I change the stinkin station. I dont have to think about it… I CAN live in the moment, I dont have to spend a second imagining her growing up, or leaving, or walking down the aisle… or any of that crap! I change the station… and I live right now without sadness or dread :) I live right now. I live where my babies live… when I try on the new suit I bought for a job interview, and my oldest runs to her room to put on her princess dress and then stands in front of me and curtsies to me and says “Please daddy, let’s dance… we didn’t do that for a long time” I live right there… I live in that second, that instant in time when she looks at me in my suit and goofy grin, and thinks Im amazing. She think’s her daddy is a prince, maybe a king… or maybe as she likes to say im just “the boss of the house.” Whatever she sees, it’s enough for this second and the one after… and we dance. Spinning around and dipping, humming some unknown tune only daddy’s know…we dance. Five minutes, three? I dont know, but when I kiss her hand and bow, she curtsies again and hugs my leg and I live in that second…I try to live in it for as long as I can, and when its over I smile and know Ill have it forever… no matter how fast life screams by. “Thanks daddy, it’s been a long time since we did that.”

Thats where I live… not in those stupid songs.


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  1. 1 Sherry Fisher on November 25, 2007 said:

    That is a great way to live, love and enjoy your little ones. Just the “right now” of things. You can sit around and cry and mourn because some day they are going to grow up and move on…(although we raise them for just such a thing) or you can just look at them right now, where they are, who they are…and soak up all the goodness of NOW!

    Thank you for the reminder to appreciate each particular phase that my kiddos might be in. It’s an ever changing thing…and I’m thankful for that too.

  2. 2 cemotosnack on November 25, 2007 said:

    There was a time when songs like that … ones written with the intent of making you cry … were my favorite. I would drive round and round the loop listening to them over and over as I cried my eyes out. I liked feeling sad … I was in such a bad place in my life. And those songs let me travel back through all my sad memories.

    Now I don’t want to do that. I want to live in the now and appreciate the blessings. I don’t want to forget the sad stuff, but I don’t want to dwell on it. I thank God I’m no longer most comfortable in the “sad”.

    I’m so grateful that God has blessed your family. I’m so glad that you get to dance with her … and be her prince, her king. I’m also glad you are trying to live in the now … one day at a time … that’s all we have (all we can handle really).

    Thanks for sharing your heart with us Justin. It’s good to hear the good that is going on in your family.

  3. 3 Celia on November 26, 2007 said:

    Oh, I loved the picture of you dancing with your princess.

    I agree with you about those sappy songs, meant to be played at weddings, sung to pull at your heart strings.

    Speaking on this side of “they grow up too fast”, I would give a million bucks if I had it, to be able to go back and have one whole day with each of my kids. I am not sure which age I would pick, but at least young enough to hold them in my lap again, and feel thier little arms wrapped around my neck, rocking for awhile, and hear thier sweet voices say mommy with all the love and trust, when they considered me the most important person in thier lives. Their dad’s may always be the prince, but a moms a mom, and a little princess will always be a princess no matter how old they get.

    Keep living in the moment and cherish each one, I know your little princess will remember them for a long long time.

  4. 4 Barry on December 5, 2007 said:

    1. update blog
    2. bring my girls to church tomorrow- i have missed them. Ok and you too.
    3. shoot first and ask questions later


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